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When Did Marriage Become So Hard?

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam

5 mins

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This February 2018 episode of Hidden Brain sheds light on why it is so difficult to be satisfied in modern marriages and how we can better navigate our long-term romantic relationships.


When Did Marriage Become So Hard?

When Did Marriage Become So Hard?

by Hidden Brain


With the divorce rate ever increasing, many couples are left wondering whether marriage has a place in modern society at all. Although every marriage has its own unique problems, it is often our expectations that are to blame for the breakdown of our relationships.

When Did Marriage Become So Hard? is an episode of Hidden Brain, a podcast from Shankar Vedantam that explores the science and history of human behavior and how society changes the way we think.

Through conversations with relationship experts and social scientists, this episode shows how the purpose of marriage has changed over time and offers advice for getting satisfaction out of your marriage.

Favorite quote

So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging. Give me identity. Give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one.

- Esther Perel, psychotherapist

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