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How to Find Love

The School of Life, Alain de Botton

5 mins

3 key insights

Visual, audio & text

The School of Life explains the complexities of modern love and how we can combat its challenges to find lasting companionship.


How to Find Love

How to Find Love

by The School of Life


The challenges of love are, in part, so difficult because they're relatively new. Marrying for love has only been the norm for a little over 250 years which, in the grand scheme of things, isn't much time at all. The ways we search for love today are often discussed in popular culture, but they're rarely systematically explored.

The School of Life turns big concepts into digestible videos, essays, and books. Staffed by writers, artists, educators, and philosophers, The School of Life is devoted to providing its audience with insight into their behavior and tools for living a better life.

Since the age of romanticism, we have searched for love based on 'instinctive attraction' – but it doesn't always work out. Instead of beating ourselves up for struggling to find love, we should treat ourselves with sympathy. How to Find Love highlights the importance of using the insights of psychology in finding love.

Favorite quote

Being satisfied with being single is a precondition of satisfactory coupledom.

- The School of Life

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