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How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even if You Don't

Lane Moore

5 mins

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Exploring the intricacies of her relationship with family, friends, and loved ones, award-winning writer and comedian Lane Moore's book is a brutal exploration of her past and understanding of the world.


How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even if You Don't

How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even if You Don't

by Lane Moore


Upon first impression, Lane Moore epitomises the image of a successful writer and comedian. The former Sex and Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan magazine has also been host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore, and a writer for The Onion.

However, for all her successes, Moore understands herself as someone deeply alone. Coming from an abusive family, Moore has grown up without a traditional family network. As a result of this trauma, the author found it difficult to build healthy friendships and romantic relationships, and the ones she did build have often crumbled due to toxic behaviors.

While its title invokes the idea of a self-help book, How to Be Alone isn't one. Instead, it sits on the edge between autobiography and therapy diary. Moore lays bare her past and emotions in order to analyze her traumas and personal journey, so we too can understand how to be alone .

Favorite quote

When you have a lot of shine to you, as so many bighearted people often do, you can attract a lot of people easily, because people are drawn to it, that kind of light. It can be so easy to forget that not everyone deserves your shine.

- Lane Moore

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