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Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

Marilee G. Adams, Marshall Goldsmith

5 mins

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Develop a learning mindset with Change Your Questions, Change Your Life, which can revolutionize your life with just a few simple questions.


Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

by Marilee G. Adams


Through a vivid cast of characters, author Marilee Adams invites us into a workplace fable from which we'll learn how to revolutionize our personal and professional relationships. Awareness of our thinking patterns will lead us to questions like, "What happened?", "What are the facts?" and "What assumptions am I making?", instead of seeking fault and blame.

We're all prone to judging others, but we're also quick to judge ourselves. Each of us operates from a mix of learner and judger mindsets. With effort, we can cultivate the seeds of connection by watering and fertilizing rich beds of acceptance, curiosity, dialogue, and creativity, while pulling out the weeds of blame, rigidity, assumptions, and fear.

Additionally, we can learn to implement the ABCC Choice Process. First, ask yourself if you are judging. Next, take a breath, and get curious about your circumstances. Finally, choose to ask learner questions.

The insights, diagrams, and stories in Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life give us the tools to shape positive interactions in every facet of our lives.

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I have a vision of workplaces and a society - of individuals, families, institutions, and communities - that are vibrant with the spirit of inquiry.

- Marilee Adams

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