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Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

Tara Schuster

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Tara Schuster takes us on her poignant but funny journey from self-destructive dysfunction to self-care and healing.


Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

by Tara Schuster


It can be hard to acknowledge you're suffering when you come from a privileged background: You never wanted for anything material and others have it so much worse. Television executive Tara Schuster is well aware of her privilege but still had to admit that, at 25, she was a major mess.

Following an upper-middle-class childhood riddled with neglect and emotional abuse, Schuster didn't know how to care for herself. So, she didn't. By her mid-20s, Schuster cried openly on her train commute to work — on a good day.

Published in 2020, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life is part-self-help guide and part-autobiography. It provides a glimpse inside the world of TV and comedy that is Schuster's day job. Schuster recounts the lessons she learned during her slow rise from rock bottom to a happy and fulfilling life.

Favorite quote

Do not look for the approval of someone you think will make you approve of yourself. Approve of yourself first, just as you are.

- Tara Schuster

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